Women on Purpose Thought Leadership Summit

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortez. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five. It's working

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on Purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortez. Welcome back to

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the Working on Purpose Show. Thanks
for tuning in again this week. I'm

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your host, Elise Cortez, joining
you live from Dallas, Texas, which

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is home based for me. If
you've been tuning in for a while,

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then you know this program is all
about helping people create more meaningful and productive

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personal and work lives and equipping leaders, insight organizations to cultivate meaning and purpose

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that elicits passion inspired contribution, innovation, and persevering performance. I talk with

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my guests, draw on their expertise, and share my own experience consulting,

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speaking and developing workforces across the globe. Every week. In these conversations,

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I hope you walk away with something
you can immediately put to use in your

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life that you come alive with a
possibility of living with passion, working on

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purpose, and are inspired to discover
for yourself just how big and fulfilling your

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life, work and leadership can be. And if you do catch far from

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we are connected, and thanks for
listening. Now onto this week's program with

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us Today is Diane McClay. She
is a personal empowerment coach for forward thinking,

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mid level professional women. She has
a contributing author to the fourth volume

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of the book Dreaming Big, Being
Bold Inspiring Stories from trailblazers, visionaries and

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change makers, and we're together,
She and our working collaborator collaboratively on a

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Working on Purpose thought Leadership summit in
Portland, Oregon in September of twenty nineteen.

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We're so excited about that. We'll
be talking about the importance of developing

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women as professionals and leaders, how
forward thinking companies embrace that are investing in

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women to grow and elicit their contribution, and of course this summit we're working

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on together. Diane joins us today
from an area outside of Portland, Oregon.

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Diane, welcome back to Working on
Purpose at least my friend. Thank

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you for having me again. It
is so exciting and awesome to be in

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collaboration with you and lighter fires for
the world to see, and it is

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so amazing. And I want to
tell our listeners a little bit. Well,

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let's just start there. You and
I met last year sometime somehow.

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I think you found me first and
asked me to be a guest on what

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you were working on there, and
we had an interview about that, and

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then I had you on my show. That's how we began, and that's

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where we just discovered that we had
some fantastic synergy and collaboration and that together

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we could create something bigger than we
could by ourselves. And that's really really

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how the magic began. Yeah.
Indeed, and as you say that,

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you know, literally my heart is
racing. I feel like getting up and

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dancing right now, because I feel
like when women as individuals find their purpose

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and they can live and work in
their passion, they can be powerful in

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and of themselves. But as you
and I have discussed offline and in some

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of our collaborative conversations, is that
when we can combine those forces and we

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can actually help women rise up and
occupy a much bigger space than what they

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could do on their own. And
I'm so grateful that I have that opportunity

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to do that with you. Yeah, And likewise, in fact, to

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that end, Diane, last Friday, I was the keynote speaker for the

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International Associations on Business Communicators here in
Dallas, and what I was talking about

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my keynote was called charge Living with
Passion, working on purpose, and Communicating

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with potency. But the whole idea
was the notion of really the need to

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be able to get help and step
into a space where you can cultivate that

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passion, that inspiration, that purpose
that you do need. It helps to

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be around other people that are up
to similar things and learning and growing from

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them to get into that space where
you can really get access to that,

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and then when you do live and
work from purpose, the difference it's a

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game changer, right. I Mean, there were women in the in the

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audience that I ask who in the
audience knows you know your purpose? And

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a couple hands whenever I say what's
it like? And they said, oh,

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my gosh, it's energizing. It
gives me courage. It helps me

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make decisions are that I wouldn't normally
make that are bigger and bolder than I

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normally would make. It's a great
place to be well, it is,

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And I think as thought leaders in
our own field and as collaborators with a

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synergy, I think they have a
responsibility to other women in the world.

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You know, I was looking at
some statistics about our Congress. So I'm

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not typically a political person, but
I've been struck by how prominent women in

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Congress and in the Senate this particular
year alone have been and it's actually made

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me want to tune in and listen
more and support women in high levels of

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leadership. And that's awesome in the
political environment. It's also working well at

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a lot of layers in corporations.
But we have a lot of women in

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the United States that can be effective
leaders at their own position. They can

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lead from whatever space they're in.
They don't have to be in corporate America,

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but they often don't feel like they
have the voice, or they may

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not be effective, or they don't
feel like they're heard the way they want

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to be. And I feel like
you and I, working with purpose and

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the thought leadership suwhat that we'll be
doing in September gives us an opportunity to

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lift those women up and let their
voices be heard in a way that not

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only empowers them, but can trickle
back into their organizations and agencies that they

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currently serve. I love what we're
up to, Diane, and I too.

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I'm very very excited about it.
I'm very proud of it. I

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feel like this is an important contribution. It's something that's very necessary out there,

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and to that end, I think
probably makes sense for our listeners who

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maybe don't know you. Would you
just start a little bit about your background,

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Diane, help but help us understand
what you did before you got into

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this space and how what you've learned
from that part of your life and career

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has assisted you. Sure, thank
you very much for that. You know.

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I have some really good fortune in
my life where for half of my

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life, from almost all my career, I literally had the opportunity to work

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in the dream job that I wanted
since I was a kid, and that

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was being working in the outdoor recreation
field. And for nearly twenty two years

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I worked in a male dominated government
agency. And that's not a bad thing.

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I learned a lot from the men
that I was working with, and

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I've learned a lot about how to
lead. But I always felt like I

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had to adapt to kind of a
masculine line of thinking. I know we're

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going to get into this later in
the show. But to be able to

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step away from that when it no
longer served me and to find a new

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fire, a new passion in coaching
and writing and empowering other women to connect

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to themselves and to connect to nature
and leverage choice in a way that serves

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them. I am so fortunate to
have a second opportunity to step into a

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new purpose in the second half of
my life. And I'm super excited about

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that and so applaud that right because
there's so many people that I think do

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need and want to reinvent themselves to
continue their journey to growth and empowerment and

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transformation and really realizing all they can
be in this life. And to your

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point, I mean you work with
empowerment as well. We need help with

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that. I mean, it doesn't
usually happen all by itself. We need

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some kind of a catalyst to stimulus. And that's why I call myself a

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purpose an engagement catalyst. And in
fact, just to share a bit about

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my background for our listeners that don't
know, I've been in the human capital

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space for about twenty some years now. I started in recruiting and went through

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the ranks of employee learning and development, and then employee engagement, leadership development,

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organizational development, organizational transformation, and
today everything that I do because of

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the work that I've done in my
own research investigating meaning and work and identity

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and then hosting this show. What
I've learned from all those four years is

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really helping people to develop meaning and
purpose in their lives and their work as

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leaders, as individual contributors, because
I know the difference it makes. It's

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not only good for you know,
how we show up in the world.

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It's good for our physical health,
it's good for our relationships, it's good

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for our longivity. There's just a
million ways to be able to come back

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to why this is a good idea. But so that brings us back then,

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Diane, In fact, let me
see one more thing real quick about

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my background, just to go back
and what you said about bringing up more

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leaders and helping even to develop some
political leaders. Last June of twenty eighteen,

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one of my friends who I met
in a leadership program that I was

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to thinking for myself. Her name
is Kim Olsen. She was running for

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the Texas Agriculture Commissioner here in Texas, and she convened a group of eighty

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six women, all Democrats running for
a seat and somewhere in the state of

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Texas. And she asked me,
will you come and you know, m

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see the conference and then you give
us also a session on the importance of

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you know, staying staying true to
our purpose. And I did, And

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I'll tell you, Diane, being
around that group of women and a room

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all up to something but also needing
each other right, getting something from each

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other from the experience of being developed
together as they pursued their individual race was

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an incredible experience. Well, and
that's phenomenal. You know that you get

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to have that opportunity to be in
front of those women, to support women

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that are looking for their own purpose, and then to have that reflected back

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to you, that you that your
work is actually meaningful to other people around

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you. And I think that leads
to the point of what we're trying to

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do, is is that not only
can women be thought leaders at whatever level

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they are in their corporation or their
agency, or their family or their community,

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but there are some women out there
who don't know what their purpose is

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or maybe it's gotten lost in translation, or they forgot or it's not defined.

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And what's really awesome about being in
that type of a space is you

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get to hear other women's sense of
purpose and their sense of meaning and it

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helps, I think when we integrate
that into our own mindspace and heart space.

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I think it also helps us get
more clear about what we want to

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put into the world and what we
want to take back out of the world.

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Oh. I think that was so
beautifully articulated. I love that,

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and then saying one more thing about
why this is important at least from my

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bandage point. Another thing that I
really appreciate about what we're up to,

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Diane, is there are so many
organizations that recognize, to our earlier point

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that the contribution of women as thought
leaders, as influencers is so important and

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they make organizations better. There's a
lot that a lot to be said about

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how women are recognized as more nurturing
leaders that know how to raise employee engagement

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and connection, performance fulfillment. They're
good at that, and so more and

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more organizations, at least the forward
thinking ones are starting to really recognize and

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embrace, Hey, we need to
develop women professionally as leaders as influencers as

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best we can because we need their
contribution. And so a big reason for

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me that I think the work that
we're doing is so important is to really

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start to address and serve that space
in the world of really helping organizations to

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develop leaders like that. Whether they're
to your point, thought leaders or influencers,

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they make a real difference inside organizations
and they need to be developed exactly

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and we can't just rely on high
levels of corporation that have lots of money

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for development programs. We can't just
rely on the political environment. We have

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to start this at our level.
It's a grassroots thing, you know,

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I kind of I've heard a lot
of people say this as the Year of

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the Woman. I mean that there
are a lot of stories and examples,

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both good and bad, that are
they're bringing women to have their voice come

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out and to share their stories,
whether it's promotion or family, or trying

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to balance work life and home life, or whether it's things that have happened

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to them that have developed them for
who they are. And I think that

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it's important that we have these conversations
in a public forum inner communities, so

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that we were not just waiting for
corporations to hand it down to us,

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that we, as female thought leaders, are creating that environment of nurturing and

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compassion and raising engagement among our peers
and among our mentors and among the people

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we serve, so that it's not
a top down approach, that it's actually

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being built as a foundation from the
bottom up. And women occupy more than

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fifty percent of the population, and
women that are forty five to sixty occupy

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twenty percent of that, and you
know, women they are twenty five or

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thirty are about thirteen percent, So
there's a pretty large need out there,

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I think for this information to be
built from the ground up, which is

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what you and I are trying to
do with the summit in September and what

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we're doing at the radio show here
today. And then to that point,

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I want to take it just a
little bit further down down down the field

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if we can, and that is
to say that you know, there's a

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lot of organizations that are that I
that I appreciate an applaud that they oftentimes

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have a women's development initiative or a
women's leadership development initiative within the organization,

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and that is great and I support
that, and I do a lot of

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work inside organizations to support and contribute
to those those initiatives. However, the

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part that I think that we're contributing
uniquely that's really important is to be able

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to take women outside of those environments
that they're in, take them out of

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that, bring them into a different
space together with other women they can learn

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from and get best practices from,
and to get a wholly different perspective from,

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and then take that back into their
workspaces, to cascade that into the

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organization, to infuse it with really, you know, what's what may be

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considered some best in thought practices around
what we're addressing, the meaning, the

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purpose, the fact that we're going
to be talking about the importance of choice,

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drawing on feminine and masculine energies,
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in there that I think a lot
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bringing their letting the women go to
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to get a fresh perspective to bring
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the you know, the leaders of
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time to forward think you know,
nuclear arms, you know, defense economics,

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how we how we become allies,
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would we not as thought leaders follow
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those types of bringing summits together where
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a greater gain for everybody. I
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brought that together for us too.
That's a perfect analogy and connection to what

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for staying with us, and welcome
back to working on Purpose. If you're

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just joining us. My guest is
Diane McClay. She is a personal apartment

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coach to forward thinking mid level professional
women. She is a contributing author to

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the fourth volume of the book Dreaming
Big, Being Bowled, inspiring stories from

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trailblazers, visionaries and changemakers, and
together she and are working collaboratively to build

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the Women on Purpose Thought Leadership Summit
in Portland, Oregon, in September twenty

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nineteen. Diane, over the break, you and I were chatting a little

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bit about your experience earlier, what
it was like to work in a male

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dominated environment, And I think that
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here, because, especially for some
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we're up to might be even more
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know, I think that from speaking
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I viewed myself as a strong,
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and we're going to get to masculine
and feminine energy a little bit later

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in the show, but what I'm
realizing now is that when I can have

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balance and I can feel harmony with
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myself, I actually I functioned much
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my home life, my local community, and my personal business and the clients

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that I serve And what I realized
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worked in state and federal government,
because I felt like I had to figured

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out myself because I was strong and
because I was independent, I thought that

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that meant I couldn't ask for help
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I actually believed that it was my
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to set the example of how other
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and figured out on their own.
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long time to figure it out.
It actually took me leaving and not being

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in that environment anymore to realize that
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strength. And it does two things. One, it actually does not push

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me up against adversity or failure or
stress or anxiety. But it also invites

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someone else to step into their superpowers
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amazing how holistic both people can feel, whether it's a man or a woman,

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but in particular women. And that's
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is taking women out of their work
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space where they can feel the freedom
and the support of other leaders and then

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cascade it back into their agency organization
when they go. And I just think

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that's important because sometimes you have to
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recognize that something is missing, and
sometimes you have to get out of your

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environment and be challenged by a new
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need or want, beautifully said Diane. Couldn't agree more fantastic, And I

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thank you for that. That wasn't
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for. Thank you also. Yeah, So I think next to what I

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want, what I want us to
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really considering what's going on in the
world of work, and people feel so

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incredibly overwhelmed, and you know that
the schedules are weight, it seems to

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be way out of hand. People
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work represents forty percent of a person's
overall life and that's a lot. If

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it's not giving something to us,
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gives, then there's a problem there. So I think already we want to

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be able to address that experience for
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their female advantage point, and that
is there's more and more discussion about the

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workplace being inhospitable to women, especially
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try to juggle a family with a
growing career. It becomes really, you

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know, do I have to choose
between going absolutely start raising we're even crazy

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as a mom running around after kids
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work, or should I just go
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a while. And more organizations are
losing women in that battle, and so

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this is part of us addressing for
women to be healthy and strong and to

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contribute their voice in a way that
lights them up is what we're after here,

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because I think it addresses an enormous
problem in the word workplace. What

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are your thoughts about that. You
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I know a lot of people who
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I notice is that if a woman
in particular makes a choice to temporarily step

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away from the workplace in order to
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the way she wants to with purpose
and meaning. When there's a point where

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her kids go to college or they
graduate college and they don't need mom anymore,

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it actually creates a big barrier for
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we help women lessen that gap or
fill that gap with less stressful ways,

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but still in meaningful and important ways
that makes them viable workers and viable to

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the community in a paid corporate kind
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the second thing is is that even
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a push pull your parent. Do
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when I did work in corporate America, yes, I very much felt that.

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corporate America that you had to support
that you needed as a parent to take

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care of your family life. Do
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show up regardless now? No,
absolutely, I mean there was certainly.

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I mean I worked for some amazing
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you know there were time I mean
I missed a lot of tennis matches.

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I missed a lot of things that
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working inside corporate America, so and
I miss them today too if i'm if

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I'm I'm on the road speaking or
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least I have more of the power
of choice, which your of course we're

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going to talk about too, but
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I love the fact that you just
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I would add to that the powerful
of the power of deliberate choice or productive

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choice, because sometimes we can all
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or the people around us. But
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lot in is that sometimes I think
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we think that we don't have options
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that's the way it was until they
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voice to get the vote. Women
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Women didn't ascend to leadership and corporations
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what we have an opportunity here is
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or the process that has been set
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be changed? And if the answer
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changed. I think the next step
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is the first step is awareness.
You have to know that something needs to

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change or has to change. And
once you have awareness, you have the

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ability to start generating options. Can
you work one day from home? Can

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you cut out early on Friday because
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Is there a project that you can
take on for two or three months

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that fits the need of a growing
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corporation. And one thing I've heard
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in balance and when we have meaning
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the equation. Absolutely, it cascades
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focus and in terms of our collaboration
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learn from you as well. And
I love the whole idea of deliberate choice

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and being intentional about that. And
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think is just so important is for
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voice. I mean, that's such
and contributed learn how to speak it because

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a lot of women have been conditioned
that they need to be asked to speak,

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or need to be invited to the
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then share it is part of what,

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of course we're up to as well, and from my perspective, I know

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the importance of that, especially when
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part, what they're looking for is
they do want to create an environment at

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work that is compelling and fulfilling for
others to work in. They want to

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nurture people that are in their stead
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do that when they start using their
voice, finding more of their voice,

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which is also connected of course to
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more about that from your vanage poment, because you also bring a fresh perspective

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on that, well, I think, thank you. I think there's a

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couple of things there. I think
there's a difference between finding your voice and

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using it. I think there's a
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when you use it. And so
some of this is about how can we

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be more effective? And I'll give
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a niece who's twenty. She's starting
the job application process and the cover letter

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writing. And you know, I
coached her a little bit on you have

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about four to six seconds in a
cover letter to get someone's attention. So

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it's important to my niece right now
is explaining who she is and why this

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is important, and she wants to
be seen and her as a young woman

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emerging into the workforce. But quite
honestly, her first sentence is all about

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that and not the purpose of why
she's writing. So what I've coached her

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on a little bit is you can
use your voice a little bit more effectively.

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Make the first statement in your cover
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I'm applying for this job. Here's
my resume. There's nothing wrong with

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being that forward thinking, that blunt, and just blatantly stating to somebody I

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want a job from you, you
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of course, But I think sometimes
women have, We feel like we

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have to explain ourselves. We have
to justify why we're even at the table,

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why we're even having a conversation.
So one of the first places is

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where can we how can we cut
through some of the noise or the static

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that surrounds us or comes from our
own head, and how do we do

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that in a direct way so that
the first thing we say can get heard

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by a male dominated organization or structure, And then what happens after that once

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we get their attention, how do
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we're asking for what we want and
we do it with integrity and strength and

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also in a way that can be
a win win for everybody. Does that

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make sense the way? Absolutely?
Absolutely beautiful. Yes, I completely agree

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with that. In fact, from
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I've done a lot of work over
the years convening groups of women specifically,

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so when you get women together,
one they can better understand and be

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free to speak and share their vulnerabilities
and speak their mind. And two we

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really want to be able to help
bring them up together. And when women

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come together, there's there's an incredible
force that happens, and I've seen it

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over and over again, and women
stand stronger shoulders shoulder, They learn from

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each other, they support each other. As I've been out speaking Diane over

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the last several several months, especially
when I'm speaking on what will you do

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through one precious life and in the
importance of cultivating passion, inspiration and purpose.

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Invariably, when I finished speaking,
I get a few women that will

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come up and tell me some of
their stories, some of those really important

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things that have happened in their lives
that have been you know, real trials

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for them, real adversity. And
they then say, this is how I've

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either helped me become who I am
today or whatever else happened along the way,

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but what I've come from that too, just those things bringing women together.

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From that, Diane emerge, this
this great idea that I had.

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I think Matt, I said,
you know what, now that I've heard

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a few of these stories, I'm
going to start And I did. I

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started a monthly women's storytelling session here
in the Dallas Fort Worth area. And

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yeah, and it started by tearing
these these women who told me there were

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stories, and you know, one
was about and you know, a major

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after divorce reinvention situation, and the
other one was about surviving and now thriving

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after a horrible sexual assault. And
the reason I'm can I've begun to commune

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these these these events, it's because
I know that when women come together about

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things like that one there, the
connection is so strong and women need that.

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That's that's nurturing for the soul.
And something about storytelling and sharing experiences

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with others of people say oh,
she got through that, I can do

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00:29:45.480 --> 00:29:51.039
it too. I'm inspired by that
is so important. You know. I'm

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smiling right now because as I looked
to the right of my desk, I

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have when I go out into nature, sometimes I find pieces of water bark

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that just feel they speak to me, and I have the words storyteller wood

419
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burned onto this piece of bark,
and it's to my right where I can

420
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see it all the time, and
it reminds me that it's a piece of

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who I am, not just as
a woman, but a person, a

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human. We all have stories,
women in particular, and I think,

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you know, we've seen a lot
of political and social events come to light

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in the last two or three years
about women's stories, and I think There's

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something really magical and powerful about telling
a story. Not only can if you

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tell a story, well you obviously, if you're speaking, you're probably saying

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something that ten or twenty or one
hundred or a million other people want to

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say but don't feel like they have
the strength. That's the first thing.

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But the second thing is, regardless
of what culture you're in, regardless of

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what gender you are, what race
you are, storytelling is inherently part of

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the the fabric of being human.
Uh. You know, That's why we

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have history. It's why you know
we can move forward into the future because

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based on stories, we learn and
we grow, and we can effectively literally

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like this, Uh you know,
this, this global change. By telling

435
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our stories, and when we can
feel safe, when we can feel like

436
00:31:26.319 --> 00:31:32.119
we've been heard, that we've been
respected, that we feel safe, and

437
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that we can contribute in a positive
way, human kind wins regardless of what

438
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you're a man or a woman.
I completely agree with that, Diana.

439
00:31:40.480 --> 00:31:42.880
Of course, as you know,
you and I have spoken about making that

440
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part of the inerpiece of the summit
is also important because it's a really important

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art and skill to be able to
learn how to do well. You mentioned

442
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using your voice well, telling your
story well is really important. And also

443
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I'll just quickly share to that end, I've all started up a monthly lunch

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and learn series here in collaboration with
a company called in Premise, and we

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00:32:04.920 --> 00:32:08.039
call it the munch, Mingle and
mus Series. I love it. And

446
00:32:08.480 --> 00:32:14.200
this speaker on May twenty feet is
talking about storytelling, so just that it's

447
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really important. So let's grab our
last break here. Diane, it's happening

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so fast. I'm Elise Cortez,
your host. We've been on the air

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with Diane McClay. She is a
personal empowerment coach to forward thinking, mid

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level professional women. He joins us
today from outside the Port Portland, Oregon

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00:32:28.920 --> 00:32:42.160
area. Stay with us, we
will be right back. Alis Cortez is

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a speaker and engagement and development catalyst. She designs and delivers professional development,

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00:32:46.640 --> 00:32:52.720
leadership and engagement workshops and can bring
her expertise to your organization. She will

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help ignite meaningful development within your workforce
that will increase employee engagement, performance and

455
00:32:58.400 --> 00:33:01.400
retention. To learn more or to
invite Elise to speak to your organization,

456
00:33:01.559 --> 00:33:07.759
please visit her at www dot Elise
Cortez dot com. She would welcome the

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00:33:07.799 --> 00:33:17.200
opportunity to help get your employees working
on purpose. This is Working on Purpose

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with Elise Cortez. To reach our
program today, send an email to Elise

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ali se at Elise Cortez dot com. Now back to working on Purpose.

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Thanks for staying with us, and
welcome back to working on Purpose if you're

461
00:33:36.039 --> 00:33:38.079
just tuning in. My guest is
Diane McClay, who is a personal environment

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coach to forward thinking mid level professional
women. She's a contributing author to the

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fourth volume of the book Dreaming Big, Being Bold, inspiring stories from trailblazers,

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visionaries, and changemakers. Together,
she and I are working collaborative to

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create the Woman on Purpose Without Leadership
summat in September twenty nineteen in Portland,

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Oregon. Okay, Diane, So
for we've got to our last segment here,

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and I want to if we can
spend a little bit of time talking

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about the the inquiry into masculine and
feminine energy as part of the summit.

469
00:34:09.199 --> 00:34:13.719
Sure, And I think that's a
great invitation, And I'll be transparent that

470
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I feel like this is a space
that's evolving for me. But in my

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story, you know, I always
felt like I had to figure it out.

472
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I had to force a solution,
I had to make it work.

473
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And what I'm realizing is, you
know, I've had a shoulder injury and

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that kind of laid me up for
a little bit, and I've had to

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kind of learn more patients and I
had to learn to accept what is coming

476
00:34:34.639 --> 00:34:37.599
at me and work with it in
that moment. And as I'm as I'm

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00:34:37.599 --> 00:34:42.400
doing my own personal work, I'm
running into lots of thought leaders about masculine

478
00:34:42.400 --> 00:34:45.800
and feminine energy, and the two
are not exclusive. In fact, there's

479
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a lot of men who have feminine
energy and that doesn't mean they're gay.

480
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But there's a lot of women who
have masculine energy and that doesn't mean that

481
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they that they can't be reasoned with. There's a balance that has to come

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in order for us to feel whole
and really true. We live in our

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purpose, and I feel like exploring
that and understanding the difference between those can

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be really helpful for the people who
come to the summit and for our listeners.

485
00:35:09.239 --> 00:35:13.280
Agreed. Let me add on that
from my rent my Banner's point.

486
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What I find so often in the
workplace and when I'm inside organizations doing leadership

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development work, or whether it's more
employee engagement, collaboration kind of work,

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or culture work. I am amazed, especially when I'm in this space of

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talking about passion and inspiration. So
many women are like, oh no,

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I definitely can't show emotion at work. Nope, I know, well I

491
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don't do that. They've been so
conditioned not to show emotion at work.

492
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So this whole beautiful array of that
spectrum of human emotion that we've been given

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to stand in that lets us bring
our passion, our inspiration, and live

494
00:35:49.519 --> 00:35:52.880
in our purpose. For a lot
of women, has they cut that off

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when they come into the front door. And yet men don't seem to be

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hampered by that. They they're okay
to be moved to tears when they get

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inspired, But women are like,
I'm not doing that. So I think

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there's a real opportunity here to help
us bring back humanity into the workplace by

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helping both men and women get access
to both their masculine and feminine energies.

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Sure, and I think you know, it's not just about like the physical

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sense of coming to tears if something
makes us sad. But I think it's

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about being present with whatever is happening
in the moment, you know, for

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me personally, I know I've apologized
to my peers. Oh I'm sorry,

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I'm crying, you know, right
right, And so first of all,

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not being apologetic for actually having feelings, but secondly understanding, okay, what's

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why is that serving me or what's
happening at a different level, and how

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can I work with it and how
can I engage it? So that's it

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00:36:51.840 --> 00:36:54.480
helps me help my voice be heard
rather than keeps my voice from being heard.

509
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Yes, and I as from my
space of purpose and meaning is in

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so doing it gives us more access
to the beauty of life and frankly,

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our own purpose or whatever our connection
to our spirituality is. It gives us

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access to that. And it's just
it's so important it is. And I

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think, you know, I can't
quote who I got this from, but

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you know, we're in our work
worlds, we're typically human producers. We

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make things, we have a budget, we get things done on time,

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we turn things out. We're always
pushing to make something or create something.

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But in reality, we're human beings. We have an opportunity to be and

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appreciate and see and receive and not
always be in high production mode. And

519
00:37:44.599 --> 00:37:47.000
I know it's been a shift for
me stepping into the coaching world and into

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the writing world. Is that often
my coach tells me, staying the step

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you're in, and you know,
the masculine energy side of me would be

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like, have to get this done. I've got more things to do.

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The sooner I get it done,
the more I can get done. And

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00:38:00.679 --> 00:38:06.000
it's kind of this destructive cycle that
we can stay in. But when my

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00:38:06.119 --> 00:38:08.880
coach says to me, die,
stay in the step, be in the

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space you are, where do you
age, where do you need to be?

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00:38:12.880 --> 00:38:17.719
It's okay. That's inviting a softer, more open family approach to problem

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00:38:17.760 --> 00:38:22.320
solving. That's beautiful and that and
that brings me to where I wanted to

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go to next to the conversation for
what we're up to in the summit.

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There's there's a reason that this summit
is going to be happening in the outside

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of the Portland, Oregon area,
somewhere in the Portland area as we as

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00:38:32.199 --> 00:38:37.800
we look at venues, and that
is I'm from Portland or from Oregon.

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00:38:37.840 --> 00:38:39.440
I spent many many years there.
And of course you live in that space

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00:38:39.480 --> 00:38:45.960
too, and you actually are further
grounded in really the environment than I am.

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But what I know about the whole
world of the of well being and

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certainly passionate inspiration, is the importance
of finding being connected to nature. There's

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magical and mystical experience that comes from
being connected to nature, and and so

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00:39:00.920 --> 00:39:04.800
that's such an important reason that people
understand that there's a reason we're bringing people

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00:39:04.800 --> 00:39:07.840
from across the nation to Portland,
Oregon to be able to connect in that

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outdoor space. Not that we're going
to be camping outdoors per se, but

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there will be activities that are designed
to dance with nature. And I'll just

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00:39:16.119 --> 00:39:20.559
quickly share a couple weeks ago,
I was getting ready to all right,

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I came home at eight o'clock at
night, and I got out of my

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00:39:22.840 --> 00:39:28.119
car and I immediately over my head
there was an owl in the tree and

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00:39:28.159 --> 00:39:34.119
he sang to me, and I
looked right up and I returned his song.

546
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Oh, and we had this exchange
for like I don't know, six

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times back and forth. And I
was just in awe of that. And

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00:39:39.639 --> 00:39:45.639
when you can let that feeling and
when you get connected to nature wash over

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00:39:45.719 --> 00:39:49.320
you, it gives you something.
It really gives you something and it's not

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00:39:49.360 --> 00:39:52.639
that hart, but you gotta plug
into it. And so I'm really excited

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00:39:52.679 --> 00:39:57.519
that part of what we're up to
here is providing that kind of opportunity to

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00:39:57.559 --> 00:40:00.639
connect with nature. Will you say
a bit about your perspective on that too,

553
00:40:01.440 --> 00:40:07.079
sure? And I you know,
your story gave me jewels and goosebumps

554
00:40:07.079 --> 00:40:09.800
at the shame and it made me
literally just look up, look up in

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my office at the feathers that I
have above me, and in the words

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like trust and adapt and empower and
persistent and those are all things that nature

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just does. And to be able
to first of all, hear something and

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pause and receive it, that's standing
in that feminine energy, you know,

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00:40:29.280 --> 00:40:31.519
the masculine energy might say, oh, this is crazy, this sounds crazy.

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00:40:31.559 --> 00:40:37.039
We have to define this more scientifically. But you have a curiosity,

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a childlike curiosity, which you embraced
and that brought you a sense of peace.

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00:40:42.920 --> 00:40:47.679
So nature isn't just about magical and
mystical connections. It's literally physically.

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You can calm your heartbeat by sitting
next to a tree, listening to a

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stream, turning off your cell phone, turning off email, and sometimes the

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00:40:59.039 --> 00:41:06.119
biggest connection can happen when we disconnect, literally disconnect from electronics, disconnect from

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00:41:06.119 --> 00:41:09.760
the busy mind of ourselves. One
of my favorite things to do is just

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go sit in the middle of the
forest and there's a spot where there's an

568
00:41:14.280 --> 00:41:19.480
old cedar log that served its purposes
of a tree at one point, and

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00:41:19.519 --> 00:41:22.760
it's now a nursery log for a
bunch of other small cedar and hemlock trees,

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00:41:23.280 --> 00:41:29.199
and I just like to sit right
next to it and just sort of

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00:41:29.320 --> 00:41:31.800
narrow my vision. First I see
trees, and then I see little saplings,

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00:41:31.800 --> 00:41:35.360
and then I see pine cones,
and then I see an ant carrying

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00:41:35.360 --> 00:41:38.480
a seed. And I could literally
be there for five minutes and have it

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00:41:38.519 --> 00:41:42.760
feel like an hour or an hour, and have it be like five minutes.

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00:41:43.320 --> 00:41:46.559
And I think that the muses we
talked about, you know, munch

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00:41:46.639 --> 00:41:51.159
and mingling and muses, And I
think that when we can touch base with

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00:41:51.360 --> 00:41:55.079
nature, I think it opens a
way that we can think about things differently,

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00:41:55.199 --> 00:41:59.800
and the muses come in and we
feel permission to be creative. And

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00:42:00.480 --> 00:42:02.559
that's what I like about it.
I love that, and also too,

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00:42:04.320 --> 00:42:07.280
what I also know from the work
that I've been doing and the research that

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00:42:07.320 --> 00:42:12.159
I've been doing is is that part
of what we're losing in today's fast and

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00:42:12.239 --> 00:42:16.480
furious, uber connected technology world is
that connection to nature. And it's one

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00:42:16.480 --> 00:42:20.639
of the things that we can when
we step back, we step back into

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00:42:20.639 --> 00:42:25.320
it and connect with it. It
gives us that that access to a vital

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00:42:25.440 --> 00:42:29.599
life force, and it gives us
a way to be able to shut down

586
00:42:29.639 --> 00:42:31.000
the rest of the world, as
you were saying, and step into that

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00:42:31.079 --> 00:42:36.400
sacred space, which is where we
can get access to our own purpose,

588
00:42:36.639 --> 00:42:39.880
what lights us up, our own
inspiration, and those are today really vital

589
00:42:39.920 --> 00:42:44.519
resources that you bring back into the
work world and make all the difference in

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00:42:44.519 --> 00:42:47.159
the world. But you've got to
develop them. Just like exercising and taking

591
00:42:47.159 --> 00:42:51.880
your vitemin to every day and brushing
your teeth should be on that level.

592
00:42:51.920 --> 00:42:54.400
But people, you know, they're
not. They're not. They're not having

593
00:42:54.480 --> 00:42:59.559
a nice nutritious diet on a regular
basis of that. And so for us

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00:42:59.599 --> 00:43:02.000
to be able to give a path
to be able to get access to that

595
00:43:02.039 --> 00:43:06.199
and start a way forward connected to
nature, I think is so important.

596
00:43:07.079 --> 00:43:08.719
Well, I agree, and you
know, the three words that pop into

597
00:43:08.760 --> 00:43:15.159
my mind that are kind of pillars
are discovery and transformation and connection. And

598
00:43:15.239 --> 00:43:17.639
I know you've got a couple of
pillars for you know, you for purpose

599
00:43:17.719 --> 00:43:23.079
and finding your fire. But when
when we can stop and look around and

600
00:43:23.159 --> 00:43:28.679
see what there is, then there's
there's more. You know, we get

601
00:43:28.719 --> 00:43:32.960
we get bigger when we when we
pause. I completely agree with that.

602
00:43:34.119 --> 00:43:36.920
Absolutely. I've had some this weekend. In fact, I ran twelve and

603
00:43:36.920 --> 00:43:39.400
a half miles around White Rock like
here in Dallas, and for the last

604
00:43:39.440 --> 00:43:44.599
three miles, Diane, literally I
spent them in tears of gratitude. I

605
00:43:44.599 --> 00:43:47.199
don't care who sees me crying,
I don't care. It was so beautiful

606
00:43:47.199 --> 00:43:51.440
and I was so grateful to see
all the interaction and the birds and the

607
00:43:51.480 --> 00:43:53.679
squirrels and everything else, and I
was just it just washed over me,

608
00:43:53.760 --> 00:43:59.559
and I was overcome by the beauty
and really, frankly, how grateful I

609
00:43:59.559 --> 00:44:02.320
am for my own life. I
hear you, you know, and I

610
00:44:02.400 --> 00:44:05.880
keep thinking like it's a ripple and
a pond, right. You know,

611
00:44:05.960 --> 00:44:09.920
you take a little moment of time
to reward yourself and be curious, to

612
00:44:09.960 --> 00:44:14.760
have appreciation and gratitude, and next
thing you know, you're bringing that back

613
00:44:14.800 --> 00:44:19.440
to your peers and your subordinates and
your supervisors in your community and your workplace,

614
00:44:19.519 --> 00:44:22.639
and somebody else you know, says, oh, I want what she

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has, and then they go and
they do the same thing, and next

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thing you know, we're a ripple
has been you know, stone has been

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cast into a pond. And we
don't know where the ripple is going to

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end up, but we know that
there's movement and there's forward action in that

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space. Absolutely right, And I
love how you've really, you've really encapsulated.

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Is just why we're doing this right, is to be able to convene

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a group of women from across the
nation to Portland, Oregon, bring them

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together in a way that is powerful, that lifts them up, supports them,

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gives them tools, helps them stand
in their passion, inspiration, purpose,

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helps him understand their their intentional choice, drawing from their masculine and feminine

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energies, et cetera, and all
kinds of other amazing things, because we

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want desperately for them to be those
thought leaders, to bring that back into

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their communities, their families, the
organizations they work for, and begin to

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deposit that beautiful contribution back in That's
exactly it. Right, when we were

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talking about creating this, we were
like, what do what what service do

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we want to provide? And that's
it exactly in your words, you know,

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when when you and I first met, you shared of you said,

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passion is what we put in and
inspiration is what we take out. M

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M. That's what we put into
the world, you know when we when

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we do all of these things and
we do them with purpose and with passion

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and holistically. M Yeah. And
what's so great about that is we give

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our passions, right, So what
is it we're giving up ourselves and we

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want these women to be to be
to be really effective and fulfilled women out

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there in the world of work and
to across their lives. They we need

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to develop and to nurture those passions, to give them out to the world

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because that that itself is energy.
And at the same time, to keep

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ourselves fueled and strong and also childlike, as you say, we need to

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be able to see and be present
to what it is about the world and

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our experiences that inspire us, give
us energy, give us life in order

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to keep that cycle of energy moving. It's just so important. Indeed,

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Hey, would you mind? I
just opened my book and I came across

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the what if poem that I shared
with you while ago, would you mind

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if I share that with your listeners
and we can cut up the rest of

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the day. Let's do it.
So this was inspired by my seed or

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log And the question is what if? What if this moment created a ripple

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in the pond. What if the
idea in your head spread to your heart

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and beyond? What if you adapted
ever so slight And what if this moment

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could change your story overnight? What
if the smallest change created the most significant

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effect. What if you choose how
to show up and you choose what happens

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next. Oh, that is gorgeous, Diane, That's beautiful. That's what

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we're inviting women to do, right, is special ext choice that they can

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change and create an impact that can
cascade and ripple back into their communities and

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their families and their places of work
with passion and purpose. Yes, and

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that is worthy of their one precious
life. Well, like, we could

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talk forever on this. I know
I know what we can right. And

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that's the great thing is We're is
going to keep these conversations going and keep

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bringing in more other people that want
to be in the conversation and want to

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be part of the process. So
coming down to the end here at Diane,

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I want to first make sure that
people know how to find you if

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they if they want to engage you
with conversations. So how would you direct

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them to reach out to you?
They can find me. They can send

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me an email Coach with Diane at
Diane McClay dot com and that's d I

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A n E dot mc c l
a y dot Coach with Diane at Diane

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McClay dot com. I have a
Twitter account at coach with Diane, Instagram

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coach with Diane, and I'm on
LinkedIn Diane McClay. Awesome, well,

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my friend, and I really so
enjoy you and I so enjoy collaborating with

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you. I can't wait to bring
this summit to life in September of twenty

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nineteen Woman on Purpose Thought Leadership Summit
in Portland, Oregon. So thank you

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very much, Diane for being here
with me talking about what we're up to

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and sharing our hearts with our listeners, and thank you for the opportunity.

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And I would just say the listeners
if they have an interest in attending that

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summit, drop Lisa I and email
I'm sure a leasa. We'll give you

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her credentials at the end of the
show. We don't have it completely worked

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out yet, but we'd love to
see if this lands with you, see

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what kind of interest is out there, and we'd like to connect with you

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to serve you the best way we
can. Awesome, Yes, listeners,

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you can find me, as I
said at the beginning of the show,

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a lease at at least Cortez dot
com. Okay, so, if you

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missed the show last week, I
had a really interesting conversation with Karen Hoyo's.

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She wrote a book called Purpose,
the Ultimate Quest, and she is

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a personal transformation expert that's helped more
than forty million people across the globe on

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their paths to purpose. She was
an amazing little spark plug thirty nine years

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old. She's just awesome. So
if you miss the show, go find

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the podcast. Next week we are
going to be on the show with Get

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This Rabbi Daniel Cohen talking about his
book What Will They Say About You When

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You're Gone? All about really creating
a legacy for yourself and reverse engineering your

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life. It'll be awesome see you. Then, remember that work is at

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least one third of our life,
so let's work on Purpose. We hope

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you've enjoyed this week's program. Be
sure to tune in to Working on Purpose,

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featuring your host, Alice Cortez,
each week on the Voice America Empowerment

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Channel. This week, find your
life's purpose at work.